We have been in our apartment for three months and are finally getting to a point of working out our budget and trying make our money last, working together on dinners and house hold choirs. I work more hours away from the house then Tony does but being a woman feel that some, if not most of the house choirs are my area of domestic rule. The things I control and get to keep up on. Not because society tells me I do but almost a natural instinct in myself that I never thought I would feel. I like being domesticated, cleaning house making dinner I find myself wishing I could at the very least work from home so I can manage it all my house, a job and me time.
I feel overwhelmed at times, I work 8:30 to 6:00 Mon through Thurs and then go to the gym for an hour or, (have not been to the gym in a week BTW.) By the time I get home I need to make dinner and shower and before I know it, it is 10pm. My day is gone and I am exhausted. Feeling like I had a full day I feel justifiably exhausted, but still exhausted. Friday is my day of slowing down I work from 8:30 to 1:30 which I love. I go home see Tony for about an hour then he drops me off at his moms house and she I spend our Friday afternoon watching TV and talking and drinking wine into the evening. Granted we had a little more wine then we should have last Friday but still having fun girl time. We are the only two girls, since Tony only has one younger brother and even the dogs are boys. Weekends are spent sleeping in, and with Tony and me never really leaving each other’s side for that long. We make time to play with the dogs seeing that they are 2 and 1 and half so they require a lot of attention still. For example this last weekend we let the boys have brain teaser Sunday morning, they have Kong balls that Tony’s mom bought them they love to play fetch and can pester you right out of your mind wanting to play. While playing with then the ball made it into one of the laundry hampers and Bubba was just beside himself trying to figure out how to get it out of the basket after about two hours of crying and barking at the basket Blaze helped him figure that he had to tip over the basket to get the ball out since it was too tall for him to climb into. After that we got creative, Bubba is a very active Lab and needs plenty of exercise, and since we already not a notice about playing vetch with the boys outside of our apartment we decided they needed exercise inside. We have a pretty long hallway so we put up two hurtles made of laundry baskets for them to jump over and they played fetch that way. It was so very funny to see them jump. After that we both filed our taxes for the first time ourselves, with Dad's help of course, but for the most part we did it. Tony has never filed before and I used to just give my W-2 to my aunt and have her fill out the forms. So we both felt a sense of accomplishment after completing the task. Dad made dinner for us afterwards and we ate together like a family, which we miss after having moved out on our own.
We have been trying to plan the wedding a little here and there. We have considered the 10th of July for 2010. We were going to invite only the immediate family which is pretty big to begin with. After talking with his mother she thinks we could manage to pull off the entire family which is at a rough estimate 77, and goodness knows those lists can grow and shirk over time. We decided who will cater our wedding . . . and though some might think it absolutely low class, we are going with Subway. It is kind of an inside joke, anyone who knows Tony, knows he is very picky about his diet. He rarely eats bread and does not eat pasta, his one exception with bread is for subway where they take out part of the bread and he over loads the sandwich with double meat and two to three times the veggies as normally allowed. It resembles a wrap but much larger. So the joke was how we feed a lot of people inexpensively in the middle of the summer and with food that Tony will eat. My friend Kristin said Subway!!! Thinking it was a joke I dismissed the idea at first but then it began to grow on me. July in Roseville/Granite Bay is HOT as some of you may know. With the wedding taking place outdoors and in the evening people might not want to eat in the first place, so small sandwiches and cold salads were the perfect idea. I wanted a backyard wedding feel without being exactly that. We are very casual people and Tony's biggest request was to get married by the water whether it be the beach or the lake where we feel in love at (we went there on our third date, after we went to the movies and we had those talks where you just connect with someone).The lake was more within our price range so that is where we have chosen to get married. We took this picture there about a month into dating.
Turns out that our dating anniversary is only a day off of his grandparents and his parents were married at the same lake we are going to get married at and in the same month of July.
We have talked about haivng kids as well recenlty and what kind of plans we have for that. Originally we said like five years now it may be sooner then that, but again no I am not pregnant right now nor are we trying right now. Having been the child from to people who were married when I was born just not to each other I am very strong on wanting to be married before we have a baby.
I swear I never can stay on point when I blog I guess that is kind of the point though. I started saying how we were growing and it is the little things we are doing, filing our taxes, planning our wedding, planning for a family that make me feel like we are growing as a family. Through all of that blabber my biggest point is that I am happy, so happy with my life and my partener and best friend. We are both very excited about getting married when you find that person you can be yourself with and just know that you have unconditional support and endless effort from someone you love and adore nothing in life seems that hard anymore. I hope everyone can enjoy this feeling in life. Until next time . . .
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